Book Review: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant

Book Review: Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It, by Kamal Ravikant

In codependency recovery, there’s a lot of talk about setting boundaries and being more assertive. No doubt, these are extremely important.

But arguably a pre-requisite to doing these most effectively, is being able to look at yourself in the mirror and calmly accept and love yourself with conviction.

In fact, upon doing some surveying of thousands of visitors, I’ve found that “Self Love & Feeling Worthy” ranks at the top of most wanted topics to learn about.

This led me right to a short book with a simple message, Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It by Kamal Ravikant.

It’s only about 60 pages and takes a couple hours (at most) to read, so here’s my quick review:

Love Yourself Like Your Life Depends On It – Review

The book is well-reviewed by thousands of readers, so I didn’t mind making a small investment to check it out.

When I first realized the main message of the book, I thought, “Okay, here we go again with the same old message about how everything starts with our mindset, and we can control our own destiny.” And guess what, I was right 🙂

However, Kamal lays out this message in a fresh way, and in some compelling ways I hadn’t considered before. After reading it, I felt inspired by the message and had a wonderful day, the best one in several months actually.

Here are some key points from the book:

  • You must tell yourself, “I love myself. I love myself. I love myself.” Over and over again, letting it sink in and become a meditation for you. This particular message is unique since it’s necessary on a primal level for survival. It has the ability to slip passed the subconscious.
  • You must love yourself with intensity for this to work. You’re literally laying down new neural pathway in the brain with this message, and must lay stronger, deeper pathways than the self-defeating programming that already exists. You must create a strong mental loop for yourself, a message of self-love.
  • It’s also helpful to meditate each day with gentle, instrumental music. Imagine the universe opening up and all the light from space flowing into your head then down into your body. Think, “I love myself,” when you inhale, and breathe out all the un-useful programming as you exhale.
  • Another, less comfortable exercise is to stand nose to a mirror for 5 minutes, stare into your eyes, breathe gently, and say, “I love myself” over and over. Again, neuroscience reinforces that the more you strengthen pathways between neurons, the stronger your beliefs, feelings and memories will become. When a painful thought or memory arises, accept it and move immediately to love.
  • After a month of doing these things, Kamal was on an all-time high in his life, and like many of us do, he got comfortable and stopped putting in the effort. Sooner or later, he had become his normal self again. But continuing the practice will ensure your feelings of self-love stay elevated, and seemingly magical things will happen in life.
  • A thought – if we’re made of atoms and molecules (which are made of even smaller particles which are empty space and energy), then what are we really? Are we simply our thoughts, or the observers of our thoughts? So, if our thoughts largely drive the outcome of who we are, then it’s practical to harness our thoughts to subdue the negative and un-useful loops, and replace them with more positive, joyful and powerful loops.
  • Let go of the ego, what we’re attached to, and what we think we should be. When you do that, the real you emerges. The strength of this can’t be described, only experienced.
  • Some will say, “You must love others first.” Kamal disagrees. it’s like when the flight attendant tells you to put on your oxygen mask before you help someone else. You can’t give something you don’t already have.
  • Instead of reading loads of books and attending tons of seminars, pick one thing and do it with intensity.

Yes, I know what some of you are thinking, and I can’t help but think it too. This feels a little “woo woo” to me.

And for others, this is a welcome message that resonates strongly.

I get both feelings.

I happen to be a very rational, logical, and pragmatic person (sometimes to my detriment), and as I’ve matured I’ve come to believe there’s more to understanding our world than traditional science and logic. This book was a fun read and felt like a fresh take on similar concepts I’ve heard about from previous materials, like The Secret by Rhonda Byrne, The Strangest Secret by Earl Nightingale, or even The 8th Habit: From Effectiveness to Greatness by Stephen Covey.

Essentially, our mind is a wild elephant that needs to be tamed; extremely powerful, can be destructive when left unchecked, and can be your greatest strength when you learn to put it to use.

This I can’t deny – when I put Kamal’s advice to the test for a few days, I noticed a marked difference, lifted spirits, and a more emotional freedom in my day to day life. I think I’ll keep trying it for now 🙂

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