...End the Cycle of Misery, and Feel Better About Yourself
From: Brian Pisor
RE: How to Leave a Narcissist
Looks like you want some help leaving an abusive relationship. Don't worry, you're not the only one who's come to this point in life. It's WAY more common than you think, and in fact, there's a certain way of going about it that will all but guarantee that you succeed, you just have to want it bad enough.
The fact that you're here right now says a lot about you. Given how you answered your quiz questions, you've probably been pushed to a point where you feel that leaving is your only choice. If so, I've found the best program I know of that will help you do it quickly and safety...
So many people out there feel stuck in a relationship in which they're constantly catering to someone who doesn't reciprocate, and as a result they grow bitter and resentful, and eventually find themselves trapped with seemingly nowhere to turn.
If this is you, you're not alone...
Consider This: Dissatisfaction in a relationship that is characterized by people-pleasing, boundary distortions, or the need to be a care-taker, is usually a direct result of "codependency" issues, and codependency seems to be on the rise in today's culture.
Since the 1960's the term "codependency" has increasingly become part of our everyday language. What started as a term to describe the family members of alcoholics is now used to describe a broad group of behavioral tendancies.
And codependency is permeating society...
Look at Top 40 song lyrics, dating culture, and even childrens' movies - they often promote the concept of "giving our all to someone we love, no matter what".
Well, unfortunately this can backfire in a big way, especially when you "give your all" to a narcissist, abusive person, or someone with "Controlling - Nonresponsive" boundary problems.
A common term being used to describe codependents who frequently end up in abusive relationships is the term "empath". These people are considered by some as the polar opposite of narcissists.
Empath: a person with the ability to perceive the mental or emotional state of another individual.
If this is you, and you've found yourself with a tendency to attract abusers, please know that it's not your fault. It's likely happened because of your special gifts of intuition and sensitivty, combined with your upbringing, cultural influences, and beliefs about the way personal boundaries should work.
The Price of Staying with a Narcissist
After five dreadful years in a relationship with an addicted, abusive man, my sister Jennifer finally accepted that her external focus needed to be pointed inward. She realized that it wasn't her boyfriend that needed fixing, it was HER.
But she was in deep.
After a night of verbal and physical abuse from her drunk boyfriend, she decided it was time...
When he finally fell asleep, she packed up her things, left his house, and called our parents in the middle of the night to come pick her up at a phone booth. She came home and told us all about all the terrible things he had said and done to her, and that she had enough. The next day we started making plans to get her back on her feet - to find a new job, get some new clothes, and get her reconnected with some more positive influences.
...so you could imagine our disbelief a couple days later when she told us he was coming to pick her up.
We were dumbfounded that she would want to go back to this man whom she claimed was treating her so badly.
I can remember mom mom crying bitterly after she left. My dad and I weren't happy either, but there was literally nothing we could do. She was an adult and had made her choice.
Then, the scenario quickly became a pattern...
After several weeks or months of staying with him, Jennifer would show up at our house in a police car or ask my parents to come pick her up along the side of the road somewhere. She would complain again of all the terrible things he said and did, and maybe show us a few bruises where he hit her.
We would reason with her, plead, and even beg her not to go back to him, but against all logic, she would once again have him pick her up in a few days.
She left and went back to him 9 times before she finally left for good...
That's right - it took 10 times to get fed up, 10 times to realize there was no future with him, 10 times to work up the nerve to leave him knowing that there could be a violent backlash, 10 times to realize her life was actually in danger, and 10 times trying to grasp onto the realization that she deserved way better than this trap to which she had fallen victim.
She had lost 5 prime years of her life, along with her car, mobile phone, savings account, credit score, and many of her closest friends.
The Silver Lining
Fortunately, Jennifer was able to get out, pick up the pieces, and get on with her life. Now she is living a much happier ending with a husband, 2 beautiful children, her health, and many good years ahead.
It wasn't until the stars aligned for Jennifer that she was able to finally stay away from the soul-sucking partner that chose her as a victim. Her "stars" that needed to align were:
Her exerience taught us that anyone can break away from an abuser with the right determination and resources. At the time (in 2007), she had to "wing it" by asking around to find out about anything that could help her heal. She ended up in a variety of places from in-patient rehab for codependency, to Dialectial Behavior Therapy and Cognitive Behavioral Therapy, to AA and Al-Anon meetings (these were all helpful in their own ways, some more than others).
What she lacked from the get go was a good starting point, let alone something that could have helped her get out in the first place.
So how do you get free from an abuser and back on the right path to healthier, more fulfilling relationships?
After years of writing and talking about Jennifer's experience, we found out about...
The Essential No Contact Bootcamp
Everything You Need to Implement No Contact (and Avoid Going Back to a Toxic Partner)
Developed by empath, abusive victim, and "No Contact" coach Kim Saeed, this program is designed to...
Honestly? It’s easier when you know what to expect and implement the right strategies.
Kim says, "In my masterclass, The Essential No Contact Bootcamp, I show you the exact strategies I’ve taught my coaching clients over the past three years - based on the methods I personally used after many unsuccessful attempts to heal using traditional therapy. I started my coaching practice in 2013, back when I had no idea how it would turn out or if I’d really be able to help people. Since that time, I’ve conducted hours of research into the reasons we break No Contact, and also discovered more about transformational healing methods."
Imagine if learning these strategies and resources meant more empowerment to make No Contact stick.
Imagine if you felt in control of your future, rather than confused and stuck forever.
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