My husband is addicted to Heroine and currently in Jail for the first time . He has been my first and only relationships since I was 16 and I am now 27. I have really bad abandonment problems from my parents and my husband . When he is home I will literally do whatever he ses and giv him anything he wants so that he will not leave me . I have a really good job and don’t do any drugs and since he has been away I have finally became independent and I am able to sleep on my own and hang out with my friends again without getting anxiety . He ses when he gets home he will be clean and treat me better butt everyone I know that has addiction problems always goes back . I feel like I struggle with codependency and when he comes back I am going to fall back to how I was . I love him and don’t want to leave him but I also don’t want him knowing he has the control over me that he can do whatever he wants to me because I am scarred he will leave
I have been where you are. Staying away from co-dependency when our loved ones come back into our lives is very difficult.
Brian (the owner of this site) will be publishing a series of podcasts in the near future about a program called BALM, which stands for Be A Loving Mirror. I highly recommend you look into it. It helped me to not only help my partner but also taught me how to be stronger myself and not fall into the co-dependent patterns.
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My husband is addicted to Heroine and currently in Jail for the first time .
He has been my first and only relationships since I was 16 and I am now 27.
I have really bad abandonment problems from my parents and my husband .
When he is home I will literally do whatever he ses and giv him anything he wants so that he will not leave me .
I have a really good job and don’t do any drugs and since he has been away I have finally became independent and I am able to sleep on my own and hang out with my friends again without getting anxiety . He ses when he gets home he will be clean and treat me better butt everyone I know that has addiction problems always goes back .
I feel like I struggle with codependency and when he comes back I am going to fall back to how I was . I love him and don’t want to leave him but I also don’t want him knowing he has the control over me that he can do whatever he wants to me because I am scarred he will leave
Summer:
I have been where you are. Staying away from co-dependency when our loved ones come back into our lives is very difficult.
Brian (the owner of this site) will be publishing a series of podcasts in the near future about a program called BALM, which stands for Be A Loving Mirror. I highly recommend you look into it. It helped me to not only help my partner but also taught me how to be stronger myself and not fall into the co-dependent patterns.
I wish you well.
Jackie