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Full Length Codependency eCourse

(Coming Soon)

A Practical Framework For Codependency Recovery

With so much information at your fingertips, it’s easy to get overwhelmed and hard to be confident in what actions you should be taking. This course will distill the best codependency recovery practices into a logical system,  with knowledge on the topics you care about most…

What’s in the course?

MODULE 1: Codependency – What Is It & Why Am I This Way?

We’ll cover basic and advanced knowledge about the “condition” of codependency. What is it really? We’ll explore the various definitions of codependency and it’s relevance in the world today, from the official origin of the term, to the broader definition it has taken on.

We’ll also explore a question much of our audience has wondered – why am I like this? The reasons can be many, including lots of family dysfunction in younger years, misplaced sense of self, obsession with security, the “thrill” of taking risks to protect another, normalize, or minimize circumstances around you.

We’ll cover an array of reasons for codependency to help you make sense of your own issues, and establish a baseline foundation from which we’ll move into the recovery framework.

Learn:

  • What codependency really is and isn’t
  • Why and how people become codependent
  • Why codependents can come from “peaceful” homes too
  • How to tell if you’re really codependent

MODULE 2: Full Awareness and Mental Clarity

We’ll teach you how to stop the obsessive thoughts and self deception that stops you in your tracks, and instead discover how to focus your mind to help you gain clarity needed to recognize and address your triggers.

You’ll learn how to let go and calm your mind, and begin to realize with clarity when you’re slipping back into codependent habits before you reach a crisis situation. Awareness will also help you recognize common self-deceptions, like glossing over maltreatment, or being deceived or manipulated into helping someone who really doesn’t need it.

Awareness and clarity are like your upper leg muscles – they don’t develop overnight, but with regular and deliberate practice, you can cultivate them to become one of your strongest assets; they are the most powerful muscle in the body.

With these new skills and habits, we’re ready to start doing the heavy lifting.

Learn how to:

  • Stop the obsessive thinking
  • Focus and calm the mind
  • Become aware of maltreatment or manipulation
  • Develop space between stimuli and your responses

MODULE 3: Triggers and Automatic Responses

Once you’ve strengthened the muscle of awareness, it will become your ultimate weapon in recovery.

We’ll discuss the most common triggers for codependents, like when a friend asks for money, your partner needs drugs again, a child needs protected from shame or embarrassment, a wife or husband gets angry or relies on you to hold the house together, and many other triggers. When you feel endangered by another and jump into action to control the situation before it blows up, when you’re the only sane person around who can keep the peace, or when abnormally tense situations have become the norm for you, your triggers will undoubtedly fire.

These are the key moments that can make or break you. How you respond dictates whether or not you’ll give in to pressure and again feel the guilt of going against your better judgement, or whether you’ll make a new choice and build elevated self respect and fortitude.

Learn how to:

  • Recognize the trigger cycle and how to break it
  • Explore your own life to uncover your hidden triggers
  • Develop a new automatic response to replace your unhealthy one
  • Reinforce your new automatic responses

MODULE 4: Setting Healthy Boundaries

Where do you draw the line between being kind vs. overdoing it like a codependent? What a great question asked by one of our readers.

Intuitively we know that being kind and “giving” is good. But there’s a line in the sand to which codependents are either blind, or they impulsively choose to ignore it. Once you raise your awareness of your abnormal boundaries, we’ll teach you how to set new healthy boundaries without losing yourself. It’s possible to maintain a sense of empathy and compassion while giving less than you did previously. It’s also possible that those in your life who are used to receiving so much from you will be taken back when you hold to a new boundary, and we’ll explore how to navigate these occurrences.

Learn how to:

  • Learn where to draw the line
  • Set boundaries without losing yourself
  • Maintain empathy and compassion while you re-calibrate
  • Stop allowing yourself to get hurt

MODULE 5: The Art of Saying “No”

Your new boundaries will inevitably be tested, and just like a hot air balloon will sink without hot air, you will start to sink unless you stand firm.

How do you know when you should give someone else what they want and when you should stick to your “no”? And once you start to change and say “no” to people who are used to you giving in, how do you do it without getting defensive? Pleasing others is not a crime, but we should not do it regularly at our own expense. If your natural inclination is to please others even when it hurts you, this module will give you healthy ways to stand firm even when you’re feeling deep pressure to capitulate.

You can be okay with yourself without approval from someone else. No need to constantly let the opinions of other dictate your personal decisions. With this module we’ll discuss the tactics for saying “no” so that you can take back control and stop relying on others for happiness.

Learn how to:

  • Use the tactics for saying “no”
  • Say “no” and stick to it
  • Stop getting defensive when being challenged
  • Squelch the instinct to please others all the time

MODULE 6: A New Era of Self-Love

A lot of changes will happen as you begin to re-invent yourself. We’re programmed to stay close to what is familiar – even if it’s not optimal, we know we can survive in the familiar – so change can be difficult. As you work to establish a new paradigm and personal parameters, the world around you will feel different and maybe even scary. Don’t worry, it’s all for the better.

This part of recovery can be like the part of running a marathon just before you “break through the wall” after about 20 miles of intense running. Your head is cloudy from all you’ve been through, and you’re seriously doubting how much further you can go. But if you have the resolve to break through the wall, you’ve reached a part of the journey where you won’t look back until you’ve reached the finish line. You’re home free.

We’ll explore what it looks like to depend more on yourself and less on others, to relax and know you are enough, and to improve low self-esteem and anxiety that have been holding you back.

Learn how to:

  • Stop self-sabatoging
  • Love your own company
  • Recognize when you’re slipping back into codependency before you’re in a crisis
  • Surround yourself with supportive people instead of toxic people

A real transformation can take place in your life, but it’s up to you. If you want help with codependency but don’t have the budget or time flexibility for regular counseling, this course will provide the knowledge, tools, and framework you need to work through the heavy lifting toward a long-term recovery.

(This ecourse is still in development. If you want to STAY UPDATED WHEN WE LAUNCH, enter your email above and we’ll keep you posted!)

7 Comments
  1. I would love to get into this class. I think I would benefit a lot from it. I can’t afford the class. I live on a fixed income and can barely afford to pay my bills every month. If there is some way for me to take it on a scholarship or payment plan or even a discount that would be great for me.

    LeAnn Mayden

  2. Great videos! Very helpful

  3. Thankyou so helpful. And so very much grateful for the genuine help that is giving someone their confidence back. Many thanks

  4. Hi I would love to go through these module, as I’ve just discovered I’m Coda and I’m 56 years old.
    Can you let me know when they are starting

  5. Australia therapist only just found your podcasts very helpful and very enlightening. I myself am codependent and this Manual would be very helpful!

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